I am not exactly sure why most African parents feel this way, but I came up with one plausible answer. While American parents on the same caliber as African parents are pushing their kids to be that "one in a million", our parents are pushing us toward the fool proof choices in life. This of course is highly commendable if one is to take it at face value. However, I sometimes feel that our parents are choosing this form of parenting because they are fresh of the heels of scraping knees and elbows just to get the bare minimum offered. This form of black tax that our parents and most of us are still encountering has resulted in parents curtailing any delusions of grandeur a child might have thereby limiting how high one can fly. With this type of upbringing, most of us start on a fall back career in hopes of multi tasking our way to our dream career.
Since multi-tasking life as a whole is not a gift most of us have been granted, I now wonder if I should engage in extreme shock therapy and give up my back up plan. Just like my enacted hip bone to wood floor shock therapy, would life be a lot clearer if I lived it for only the things I know I want? No back up plans, just the plan? Would I have skipped my quarter life crises? Could I be happy living on Art and Fashion alone? Of course skipping the back up plan will make affording this seasons Burberry python thigh-high boots impossible.
I must state the fear all unsatisfied young professionals know but choose to ignore, I am not entirely sure we truly can have it all. So, what gives?